Betsy As a Teen – Before Meeting Mr. Right
Besty recently married a young man who also signed a chastity card on his REAP retreat years before meeting Betsy. Read her thoughts on living chastity as a teen, long before she met Mr. Right.
Through my years of growing up, I have had many people talk to me about not having sex before marriage. At first when I heard these talks I thought, “Yeah, right! No way, no how! I am not going to have sex before marriage because I could get sick, its immoral and worse yet I could get pregnant. I thought I had it down, at least I thought.
During my sophomore year of high school, I met what I thought was the most perfect guy in the world. He was cute, popular, and very outgoing. I knew from the beginning he was not like any other guy that I had been with. This guy moved fast. We hadn’t even been on one date before he kissed me and the next day he said he loved me. My friends knew he was bad news and they kept telling me over and over, but I didn’t listen. I was so wrapped up in the idea that I had someone that called me every night and would buy presents for me all the time that I couldn’t see what I had really gotten myself into.
While we were going out, he had his 16th Birthday. His parents bought him a car. He would come and pick me up, but we wouldn’t really go anywhere. He would always take me to a random parking lot and try to go farther with me than he did the night before. Let me tell you it is the scariest thing in the world when a guy takes you to a parking lot. You don’t really have any way out. You are just kind of trapped. I was so confused of what was right and what was wrong. We weren’t having sex but we were going pretty far…where was the line? I kept trying to talk my self into how it was ok, but I would feel horrible. Sometimes when he would take me home I would feel so guilty about what I was doing I would be crying before I even got to my door.
I knew this was not how I wanted things to be. I tried to tell him this the next time we went out. He apparently wanted that night to be THE night, the night where we would go all the way. I explained that maybe we should actually go some place instead of the parking lot. He became really upset with me that I didn’t want to do anything. He yelled and screamed at me of how I was being to paranoid, and acting like a baby. I knew at that moment that even though I thought I was in love I was nowhere near it. I don’t think I will ever be in real true love until I get married. Then I will know that my husband was willing to wait till our wedding day to have sex… and that to me is true love. And, if I thought that going out with that guy sophomore year was love – then real, true, honest, love must be absolutely amazing.
In the Bible it says, “Avoid Immorality. Any other sin a man commits does not affect his body; but the man who is guilty of sexual immorality sins against his own body. Don’t you know that you body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and who was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourselves but to God; He bought you for a price. So use your bodies for God’s glory.” (1 Corinthians 6: 18-20)
I challenge you today to pray to God asking him for help in making limits for yourself, and that once those limits are made not to let any one change them.