Jen Questions Chastity
Jen used to believe in myths about sex and relationships. Overtime, however, she discovered the truth.
The first time I remember talking about chastity was in sixth grade. My friends and I decided that while parents, teachers and other adults said that sex should wait until marriage, it isn’t really necessary to wait. There are several things that we thought were true, but aren’t.
It’s ok if you’re really in love. Who knows? You may end up marrying the person. Every action you take brings consequences; sex is no exception. Many couples after they’ve slept together realize that there isn’t anything left to discover and break up. Having sex also brings physical consequences, like STDs, AIDS, or pregnancy. True love doesn’t mean that you sleep together—it means that you want the absolute best for a person.
Safe sex means you don’t get hurt. First of all, even health clinics will tell you that no method of birth control is 100% effective, except for abstinence. Condoms, the contraceptive most recommended, fails some of the time. That means there’s a chance that you could contract AIDS or another STD. They’re all gross. That means there’s a chance, if you’re a girl that you could get pregnant. Secondly, there is no condom that is big enough to cover my heart. If I slept with someone, and then we broke up, I would be incredibly hurt, knowing that I had given him a part of myself. I would be anxious that my parents would find out. I would even feel guilty and ashamed. There’s no such thing as safe sex, except for abstinence.
Everyone is doing it. If you listen to the radio, watch television, read books, or listen to conversations in the hall in your grade school, high school or college, it may sound like everyone’s doing it, and that no one is bothering to wait until marriage. I’m going to tell you that not everyone is doing it. I’m an eighteen year-old college student and I’m a virgin. I plan to be a virgin until my wedding night. That may be a long time away—it may even be never! But I’m waiting and I know that I’m not the only one. Not everyone is doing it.
By waiting for marriage, I’m saying that I love myself enough, that I’m doing what is best for myself, both physically and emotionally. I’m also saying that I love my future husband, even though I don’t know who he is, because I’m saving this precious gift that I have for him and only him. Will you do the same.