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I have low self esteem from past comments made to me. I try not to let them bug me but I can’t help it. Do you have any advice?


Dear Friend,

Let me start by saying that you are not alone! As a counselor and youth minister, I have worked with hundreds of young people who feel awful about themselves. I am often shocked because on the outside they seem so happy and so confident. I recently talked with the Homecoming Queen of a local high school. She revealed to me that she has very low self-esteem and that her apparent happiness is “just a mask.” I was shocked! I mean this was the Homecoming Queen at a large high school…how could she not like herself?!?! I bring this up because I don’t want you feel badly about struggling with self-esteem. I think that many generally happy people are walking around wishing they could tell someone how they really feel. You should be proud of yourself for being open enough to share that with someone! That takes courage, which is an incredible gift!

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Lately, my parents have been finding excuses to try to miss Mass and they call me selfish for wanting to go to Mass when they don’t want to. I’ve asked them to just drop me off, but they won’t. I don’t know what to do. In the Ten Commandments God tell us to keep the Sabbath holy, but he also tells us to honor our father & mother. Am I in a state of sin because I can’t go to Mass because I cannot drive? Am I being selfish?