Were Adam and Eve Married?

Were Adam and Eve Married?

If the Church says we have to be married first in order to have sex, then why is it not mentioned anywhere in the Bible about Adam and Eve being married since they had two kids – Cain and Abel?

Believe it or not, almost all Christian traditions, and even Jews, accept God the Father as the first “marriage celebrant.” It’s not like there were any other people on the earth to organize an official service, after all, or attend a ceremony, or dance at a reception after Eve smooshed cake all over Adam’s nose.

But, in reality, Adam and Eve had the coolest wedding of them all (making their children, Cain, Abel, and the often-overlooked Seth, totally legitimate). Here’s why: God wed them through the creation of Eve. She is physically part of Adam and Adam was incomplete until she arrived.

After the creation of Eve, Adam says, “At last, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh.” They didn’t need a ceremony to ask God to unify them; He already did it for them through Eve’s creation. The rest of us have ceremonies, with a sacrament, to experience the same type of unity given to Adam and Eve.

God could have created Eve separately, in another garden, and given her a separate mission – but He didn’t. He created Adam and Eve together, placing them in the same garden, of the same flesh, for two purposes. In Genesis Chapter 1, God immediately tells them to be fruitful and multiply. Sure, God is a practical God and knew that the human race couldn’t flourish without these two getting together, but there’s more at work than just God’s desire for more bodies and souls.

The second purpose, more clearly revealed in Genesis Chapter 2, describes God’s recognition that it is not good for man to be alone. We were created to be in unity – for both practical purposes (babies) and to help one another through life (bonding). None of us were meant to fight through life on our own. God exists in a community of persons: the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. And since we’re created in His image and likeness, we should exist in community too.

God’s plan isn’t that we just have nice, close friends to help us along, although this is part of His plan. There’s more – if we’re called to marriage, He wants us to experience total unity with someone. Man and woman came from one to be reminded that we were meant to be one (biologically, through sex and the total personal intimacy comes with it). It’s a powerful and cool thing that a man and woman’s body, heart, mind and soul can do – we are really meant to complete one another. The creation of Adam and Eve as one shows us this reality.

Judeo-Christian teaching believes that God showed us the model for marriage and family in the creation of Adam and Eve, in His statement that man should not be alone and in His instruction for them to be fruitful and multiply. Jesus accepted this traditional view of marriage as well, as he disapproved of adultery (affairs) and fornication (sex outside of marriage). If marriage wasn’t needed to have sex and have children, fornication and adultery would not be an issue. But Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery, “Go and sin no more” (John 8:11). And, if the idea of marriage was too strict, limited or just wrong by the time Jesus arrived, he would have suggested an overhaul of the system – but he didn’t. In fact, his chose a wedding to be the place for his first miracle.

Does this mean that you could be “married in God’s eyes” or feel married without going through the sacrament or ceremony? I’ll answer that with another question: If your father was the only welder on Earth, and you needed two pieces of metal to be welded together, could they become unified if you never bring the pieces to him? You can stick them together with glue or duct tape or velcro, but that wouldn’t be anything like being welded together.

Only God can make two people one (none of us have the talent of pulling our partner out of our rib); only He can weld us together. The public, sacred wedding ceremony is where this happens. It is the present-day version of Eden. The sacrament in the Church is what turns a man and woman into the “one flesh” reality in word and sacrament. The wedding bed makes them one flesh physically. Every act of sex after the consummation (the wedding night) is a renewal of this binding sacrament.

It’s a beautiful package deal God intended for us all along. Although many people in this world today don’t believe marriage or sex to be this powerful, lasting or important, as Catholics, we still do. Through the sacramental grace of the Rite of Marriage, and the renewal of the wedding vows through sex within marriage, a couple can be united almost as closely as the first husband and wife – and can glimpse the perfect unity we were all created to experience in Heaven.

Rachel Leininger is a full-time mom, author, and speaker with over 10 years of ministry experience. She's married to the excessively creative and unfairly gorgeous David. Her favorite things include decorating their home, everything Cardinals baseball, and coffee.

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